The Price of "Staying on the Fence"

He hesitated.

"Yes or No?"

We call it indecision.

Sometimes caution.

Sometimes "rethinking."

But the truth is:

People don't abandon you for being reckless.  

They abandon you because you've become safely useless instead of courageously wrong.  

That's the real cost.

Indecision is escape.

Escape from ownership.

Escape from accountability.

Escape from blame.

CEO stalling a pivot.

Parents dodging a boundary.

Partner refusing to define.

Different roles, same damage:

You rob people of clarity.

Life moves anyway.

The world doesn't wait for your answer.

It just picks one for you.

Every pause is still a decision.

Usually the worst one is made by default.

The price isn't mistakes.

Mistakes are forgivable.

Chronic uncertainty isn't.

A wrong decision teaches.

A non-decision betrays.

So what exactly are you protecting?

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Is A Secret Ever Safe?

I have a friend with a bottomless supply of secrets. 

Every time we meet, he leans in, whispers something, and bookends it with: 

"I trust you.  I know this will stay with you."

Initially, I felt flattered, though a bit wary: 

One slip of the tongue and I'd be a traitor. 

Until I discovered he'd shared the same secret with three other friends. 

Each one getting the same hushed, holy "I trust you."

My friend's trust was on a group subscription.😃

Real trust is no drumroll, no confessions, no emotional showmanship. 

It shows up quietly in discretion, not declarations.

My friend mistook secrecy for trust. 

He felt important handing out classified information like party favours. 

But trust without discretion is gossip with a halo. 

And when you over-share the same "secret" with everyone, you're not bonding.

You're only burdening the people who now carry what you couldn't.

Trust isn't about how many people you tell. 

It's about how many people don't need to hear it from you to believe it.

The moment someone realises your trust is a group subscription, you stop being a confidant.

You become a liability.

Do you know someone running trust on a group subscription? 

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Bless Me Before You Die

Bless me, O Banyan tree

Not a day have I missed

lighting a lamp at your feet

Your roots thirst for water

even as they rot beneath you.

Yet I come empty handed

seeking blessings from you.

I know you are dying.

Bless me before you go.

Let this tiny lamp 

light your final peace.

Somewhere nearby, an AC hums. 

A chainsaw waits for Monday. 

And a child wraps cloth around her face to ride to school in 48-degree heat.

The tree doesn't curse us. 

Neither do the birds that quietly vanish from its branches.

They sense what we don't. 

It just stops giving shade. 

Stops exhaling. 

Stops holding the soil together. Quietly. Without drama.

We call that development.

The lamp still flickers at its feet. 

Devotion intact. Conscience outsourced to God.

Is there a word for worshipping what you're destroying?

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