I have a friend with a bottomless supply of secrets.
Every time we meet, he leans in, whispers something, and bookends it with:
"I trust you. I know this will stay with you."
Initially, I felt flattered, though a bit wary:
One slip of the tongue and I'd be a traitor.
Until I discovered he'd shared the same secret with three other friends.
Each one getting the same hushed, holy "I trust you."
My friend's trust was on a group subscription.😃
Real trust is no drumroll, no confessions, no emotional showmanship.
It shows up quietly in discretion, not declarations.
My friend mistook secrecy for trust.
He felt important handing out classified information like party favours.
But trust without discretion is gossip with a halo.
And when you over-share the same "secret" with everyone, you're not bonding.
You're only burdening the people who now carry what you couldn't.
Trust isn't about how many people you tell.
It's about how many people don't need to hear it from you to believe it.
The moment someone realises your trust is a group subscription, you stop being a confidant.
You become a liability.
Do you know someone running trust on a group subscription?
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